Good Job! Really?

Our world craves affirmation. Social Media "Likes", atta-boys, titles, and approval bounce through digital and real-world spheres around us. But here is the reality: self-esteem is not a gift that someone gives you — it’s something you own, build, and protect.

That wellspring of belief in your inherent worth doesn’t come from others — it comes from you personally accepting it, professing it, and acting on it.

External Validation Isn’t Ownership.

When we need the approval of others to feel our worth, we become renters in our own headspace. Another person’s rejection, oversight, or criticism is enough to shake our faith in everything. That’s not strength—that’s borrowed, fake confidence.

But when we really take up our self-worth, we care less about other people’s opinions. We don’t wait for applause to be proud of who we are. We take our position based on principle, not popularity.

We Are the Gatekeepers.

Imagine self-esteem as a home. Others may come to admire, even to leave gifts — but only you have the key to the front door. We're the only one who determines what goes in and what gets thrown out. 

If you have handed over your sense of self-worth to someone else — even unwittingly —maybe it’s time to take it back. Not arrogantly, but confidently. Self-esteem isn’t loud. It’s steady. It doesn’t require a permission slip to exist — it just requires you to own it.

 You don’t want to rely on people for something that was never theirs to give.   Be blessed.  wcd