Thursday, July 17, 2025

The House That Held Us

 The House That Held Us

Growing up, our house was rather small, like all the others in our neighborhood. The rooms felt like they were always bursting at the seams. But somehow, that modest little house managed to hold everything that truly mattered. It wasn’t just a place to sleep or eat—it was the heartbeat of our family, a quiet witness to all the messy, beautiful moments that made us who we are.

Looking back now, I realize that house was more than just a structure of wood and nails. It was a keeper of memories, a holder of dreams. In its own quiet way, it grew with us, stretching to accommodate the laughter, the chaos, the arguments, and always room for a stay-over guest and friends. It was the hub of a big family packed into a small space.

From the outside, it looked humble. Inside the house, life was mostly anything but quiet. Bedrooms were shared, privacy was a luxury, and every morning felt like a race in that narrow hallway. The bathroom mirror was a battlefield of toothbrushes, combs, and elbow jabs. Still, it worked. We learned to coexist, to compromise, to share not just the physical space but the emotional one too. There were arguments, of course, but there were also late-night whispers, inside jokes, and belly laughs that echoed off the walls.

In that house, we knew each other down to the smallest quirks. You couldn’t hide in a space that small, and maybe that was the greatest gift. We were part of each other’s lives in a way that bred empathy and understanding. When one of us had a bad day, the whole house knew it. We didn’t need to say much—just a glance, a nudge, a joke at the right moment was enough to shift the weight.

The house may have been small, but the world around it felt expansive. Our neighborhood was a kind of extended home. Everyone knew every crack in the sidewalk, every neighbor’s name, and every porch light. The soundtrack of our lives was built on the hum of lawnmowers, the slam of screen doors, and the rumble of familiar cars heading down the street. It was all so ordinary—and yet so rich.

It wasn't just the joyful moments the house held. It carried us through heartache too—through loss, disappointments, setbacks, and long days when nothing seemed to go right. In those moments, the house became a refuge, absorbing our sadness and reminding us that we were never alone. We learned resilience there—the kind that grows from being surrounded by brothers and sisters who care, and a home that always made space for second chances and folks in need.

As the years passed, and we each found our way into the world, the house grew quieter. I believe its pulse still lives in me. I can close my eyes and hear the echoes—the slam of the screen door, the laughter from the kitchen, the clatter of too many feet in too small a space. What remains isn’t the size of the house, or the condition of its walls, but the feeling of it all. 

Now, I understand something that child-me couldn’t quite grasp: a home doesn’t have to be grand to be life-shaping. Sometimes, it’s the smallest spaces that hold the biggest hearts. That house taught me about life, empathy, patience, and the kind of courage it takes to dream big even when the road ahead seems impossible. It didn’t just give us shelter—it gave us a foundation that still feels like home.

Wednesday, July 16, 2025

Good Job! Really?


Our world craves affirmation. Social Media "Likes", atta-boys, titles, and approval bounce through digital and real-world spheres around us. But here is the reality: self-esteem is not a gift that someone gives you — it’s something you own, build, and protect.

That wellspring of belief in your inherent worth doesn’t come from others — it comes from you personally accepting it, professing it, and acting on it.

External Validation Isn’t Ownership.

When we need the approval of others to feel our worth, we become renters in our own headspace. Another person’s rejection, oversight, or criticism is enough to shake our faith in everything. That’s not strength—that’s borrowed, fake confidence.

But when we really take up our self-worth, we care less about other people’s opinions. We don’t wait for applause to be proud of who we are. We take our position based on principle, not popularity.

We Are the Gatekeepers.

Imagine self-esteem as a home. Others may come to admire, even to leave gifts — but only you have the key to the front door. We're the only one who determines what goes in and what gets thrown out. 

If you have handed over your sense of self-worth to someone else — even unwittingly —maybe it’s time to take it back. Not arrogantly, but confidently. Self-esteem isn’t loud. It’s steady. It doesn’t require a permission slip to exist — it just requires you to own it.

 You don’t want to rely on people for something that was never theirs to give.   Be blessed.  wcd

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